Being a proud parent has always been a dilemma. While I am not a proud personwhen it comes to my children, I tend to break into a different person. I could sing of their praises all day long.
Before I had children, I often criticize parents who think the world of their children. How proud I thought. But then, when I had my first child, I did exactly the same thing. Then I was “better” you see. I felt guilty so I am OK. But I can’t help thinking that I had the “BESTEST” kid in the world. I know one shouldn’t compare but you know how it is being new parents. It wasn’t until I read a book on this topic that I realize that I really should not feel bad about bragging about my child. Here is how it goes.
If you’re not your child’s greatest cheerleader. Who then? It is the duty of the parents to be proud of their children. This gives them the confidence and the acceptance they need for the future. It all makes sense doesn’t it? Now, do you know why some children have low self esteem? lack of confidence? It is usually the parents that unknowingly look down on them.
Personally, I could remember how my mother told me that my cousin was prettier than me, smarter than me, more obedient than me. It took me lots of time and therapy to get over it. The thing was, my mom never really thought that her words would impact me so much. It was to encourage me to wash my face everynight, be more diligent to do my homework and be a bit more obedient. So there, I love my mom very much now, but I would never tell my girls someone else is better than them, in my eyes, they are the best! and most importantly they know it.
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