I was thinking about how to relate my love to my children. My eldest child is growing up fast and I sensed that she is a little insecure.
Her jealous reaction to her younger sisters are clear indication that she is not completely secured in our love. In some ways I feel jealousy is truly a vicious cycle. The more you are jealous, the more badly you behave. So, one day while having a chat with her, I told her that I love her completely. She asked if I loved her when I am angry at her or when she is naughty.
My reply was that I love her entirely and wholly. I may hate her actions, but that has got nothing to do with her. I may not like what she is did or her behaviour but I certainly loved her.
I think she felt much better after that chat. I also remembered having this conversation with her before. Sometimes, children needs to be told again and again and again.
I make it a habit to give all my children a good-night kiss. Its my way of telling them, at the end of the day, I still love you very much.
Just as we’re always told not to go to bed angry with our spouse, we should never let a child sleep feeling that they have not been loved or mummy is still angry.
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